IS ALCOHOL COSTING YOU MORE THAN JUST MONEY?
I migrated to Australia in 2003 from the UK 39yrs of age looking for a better life; randomly met a member of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) who invited me to my first AA meeting. I suspected my drinking had become problematic. I had lost the ability to control how much I drank once I started, and was also unable to guarantee my behavior when I drank. I rarely sobered up as I’d become a daily drinker; drinking and driving common practice with my children in the car, as well as drinking before going to work as an intensive care nurse. I remember drinking beer in my garage with the roller door open, sitting in a camping chair Australian style and thought that I’d arrived! I drank essentially for the effect and to change how I felt, living life without alcohol I struggled to “cope” with feelings and circumstances. It didn’t matter if I was happy or sad, I drank, and drinking had become a way of life that seemed normal. Eventually my drinking ceased being a luxury and fun and became a necessity and extremely sad. I was largely drinking alone at home and often to oblivion.
My delusion surrounding my drinking had hindered me from learning what alcoholism is. An alcoholic doesn’t have to be a park bench drunk. I was a working mother, with a profession and a career, a nice home, a driving license and from the outside looked like I had things together yet inside I was dying. Life had become an existence and I arrived at AA with a multitude of problems. I was prey to misery and had problems with personal relationships. I had no clue how to be a decent partner, mother, daughter, friend or employee. I couldn’t control my emotional nature, and I was full of fear, and often very angry and resentful. Today I understand that alcoholism is a disorder and that I am mentally and physically different from normal, moderate or heavy drinkers and I suffer a malady of a spiritual nature. AA has offered me a solution to my alcoholism. AA is a fellowship of people who share their experience strength and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism. The only requirement for AA membership is that you are alcoholic and have a desire to stop drinking.
After 22 months of abstaining from alcohol and just “not drinking” it all got too hard and I picked up a drink. 6 weeks of attempting to control my drinking unsuccessfully, desperation took me back to AA. I rarely had one or two drinks, what was the point? I now identify with the Allergy/Phenomenon of Craving in the Dr’s Opinion of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and that I am Powerless over alcohol both before I start drinking due to a mental obsession around alcohol, and after I pick up a drink due to a physical phenomenon of craving. For years to me I thought that I was just changing my mind and choosing to drink. I now know that I have lost the power of choice where alcohol is concerned. I could stop drinking for short periods of time, I just couldn’t stay stopped. I would usually return to drinking as a reward or if in emotional pain, fear, anger or resentment. I know today that I cannot drink safely as I drink abnormally, but I didn’t know how to live without alcohol. That desperation has been the greatest gift, as painful as it was; it propelled me to do the suggested things in AA. The twelve-step programme of AA is a practical programme for living; it requires total abstinence from alcohol and is based on spiritual principles and living and growing along spiritual lines. I have been awakened by the process of taking the twelve steps and introduced to a concept of a power that keeps me sober; if personally powerless over alcohol (which the evidence of my drinking career confirmed) I needed a power in my life by which I could live. I arrived in AA a militant atheist and today my relationship with my Higher Power is the most significant relationship I have in my life; it gives me a life. AA is not a religious programme it’s a spiritual programme. Living AAs design for living has required honesty and willingness to examine my past and huge changes that help me to live sober. It involves going to AA meetings, working the twelve steps with a sponsor (someone who has had the experience of taking the twelve steps) being involved and of service and helping others. AA gave me hope, when my situation felt totally hopeless. My experience is that giving AA a go, today I have a life indescribably wonderful. I swapped the calamity and dramas for a life filled with joy, fun, laughter and freedom as I am no longer controlled by my alcoholism. AA saved my life, changed my life and gave me a whole new life and for that I am truly grateful. If it can work for me, it may work for you.
Anonymous.

Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is very active in the Northern Rivers. Multiple physical meetings daily and online digital meetings are an option.
Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is very active in the Northern Rivers. Multiple physical meetings daily and online digital meetings are an option.
September 8/9/10th 2023 Alcoholics Anonymous are holding the 7th annual convention locally. Organised and run by local AA members.
Knowing where to go and how to get help when an active alcoholic wants help, local AA members are on hand to give that help. Somewhere in the background of an active alcoholic’s life, there has probably been help from an employer, a Dr, an alcoholism agency or facility, a relative or friend in the suggestion of attending AA. From the beginning in 1935 AA has depended on good community relations to keep its helping hands informed.
7pm Friday September 8th 2023
Alcoholics Anonymous holding a LOCAL PUBLIC AA MEETING Open to All
Free Event – Bangalow A&I Hall
How to get help from Alcoholics Anonymous
- Visit www.aa.org.au
- Phone the National AA helpline 1300 22 22 22
- Local helpline 1800 423 431 or 0401 945 671
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